The prompt for this week’s #52Ancestorsin52weeks is “The Bachelor Uncle”. No one fitting that description came immediately to mind, although I’m sure there is one or two lurking in our family tree. Speaking of family trees, I have been creating one on Ancestry.com, and there are over 500 people in it! Did I mention that I love research, and love data? If you are interested in browsing through the “Shelly and Horn Family Tree”, below is a link. I don’t believe that it is necessary to have an Ancestry account – you can sign on as a “guest”. Please let me know if it works – apparently this is a new feature that is being tested. https://ancstry.me/2tJTxP0
Back to the prompt. Not having any luck with “The Bachelor Uncle”, I thought I’d share a bit about our “The Maiden Grandmother”, Sarah Lucille Reeves Horn (Lucille). My mother’s mother, Ruby Bigler Horn, died in 1951, five weeks after my brother Bill was born. I haven’t forgotten Grandma Ruby – I’ll have more about her in a future post. Grandpa Horn (Buel Edward Horn) was a Methodist minister, and, apparently “quite a catch.” I’m not sure how he and Lucille met, but she was very active in her Methodist Church (Rockville, IN), and I assume they met there. There is a rather funny story about them which involves my dad: When my Dad (Bill) asked Buel and Ruby if he could marry their daughter (Marjorie), all Buel asked him was “Do you have a place to live?” And in 1953 or so, when Buel (age 65) and Lucille (age 52) came to tell Marjorie and Bill that they were going to get married (can you picture them, holding hands, sitting on the edge of the couch in the living room?), Daddy straight up asked them “Do you have a place to live?”. They were married a week after I was born (1953), and did have a place to live, as it turned out.
Sarah Lucille Reeves was born 18 Feb 1901 in Indianapolis, Indiana. She was the only child of Perry Willard Reeves (1878 – 1946) and Blanche Marie Cole (1879 – 1950). Her father, Perry, worked for the Pennsylvania Railroad (he was a conductor) and in the late 1920’s and early 1930’s lived in Washington D.C. where he had a position that had something to do with the railroad in the Hoover administration. Hoover was president from 1929 – 1933, and the 1930 census has the family living in D.C. They were part of “Washington Society” and I have some gorgeous dresses that belonged to Lucile from that time period. Lucille was a fine singer and taught piano and voice to many students. She received her teaching certificate from the Peabody Conservatory of Music in 1932. She also studied at Julliard.



Lucille never married until she met my grandfather. Apparently she had some suitors but they did not “measure up.” The family bought the “Buillion Farm” near Bellmore, IN for $6000 in 1933, after Hoover was defeated by FDR. Lucille, her parents, and her mother’s older half-sister, Minnie Cole Moore, lived on the 100-acre farm. She cared for her aging parents, and Minnie, managed the farm, was very active in church life and nursed her parents through their final days. After Buel retired, they moved to the farm and he “played” at being a farmer. I have many wonderful memories of going to visit my grandparents at the farm (see below). Lucille was handed an “instant family” of two step-daughters and six grandchildren. She taught me how to gather eggs and pluck a chicken, a far cry from Washington Society!
Lucille was well traveled. She kept postcards of all of the places she had visited – from New York to California, and I have several “tourist picture books” that she kept. I imagine some museum would love to have them. The farm became a repository of her parents’ furniture, her aunt Minnie’s furniture and items belonging to Ruby Horn (my mother’s mother) and Buel Horn. Even my other grandmother, Geneva Shelly, stored furniture and other items at the farm when she moved into assisted living in nearby Greencastle. Somehow, Lucille found places for all of the family possessions, and the farmhouse was neat as a pin, both inside and outside. She was both thrifty, and a “keeper of memories”. In 1988, she moved from the farm to the same assisted living facility in Greencastle where my Grandma Shelly lived out her last 15 years (Asbury Towers) and settled into a two bedroom apartment
In 1995, after she had a stroke and could no longer live on her own, my mother, brother Jim and I went to Greencastle to clean out her 2-bedroom apartment. That was quite an experience, and it was a virtual treasure-trove of books, papers, photos, furniture, music, old letters, china, vintage dresses, fur coats, magnifying glasses, etc. Although she was an only child, Lucille was not a lonely one. Her extended family on her mother’s side lived close by in the Mansfield area, Parke County. When cleaning out her apartment, I found an assortment of mostly unlabeled photos from the early 1900’s that are just gorgeous. I sent them to a historian in Parke County, IN, and he posted them on the web. Here is the link.
http://www.ingenweb.org/inparke/Families/ReevesHorn/SarahLucilleReevesHorn.htm
And here is a photo of Lucille’s Aunt Minnie from the collection:

One of the very cool things about this “maiden grandmother” was that she was a thinker. As an adult, I was privileged to have had several conversations with her about her faith (she came late to it, as her parents were not particularly religious), her world-view (she was pretty liberal), and her family. As I mentioned earlier, Lucille was thrifty, and there was not a scrap of paper in the apartment where Lucille had not written in the margins or on the back. I don’t believe she bought a notebook or packet of paper in her life, but she was a prolific writer. Here is a sample of her writing, hand-written on the back of three cardboard inserts from a package of “Hanes Panty-Hose”. I don’t know if this was a talk that she prepared, or just her personal musings.
“Experiencing God’s Love
“One way we can grow in our relationship with God – in learning to be a part of God’s love is to share in the experiences of women of the past.
“Through a study of the writings of Julian of Norwich who lived from 1342 to approximately 1423, Nancy Carter Goodley discovered that not only Julian but other women of that time looked upon Christ and God not only as a father figure but also as encompassing the virtues of the mother, as expressed by Anselmo’s Prayer to St. Paul which includes these words: “But you, too, good Jesus, are not you also a mother? Is not he a mother who like a hen gathers his chicks beneath his wings?”
“By seeing the feminine qualities in God, Julian was better able to understand divine love. It gives an expanded image of God when we consider the truly feminine ways of expressing love – To the Fatherhood of God we can add the qualities of Motherhood.
“We might ask ourselves what image we have of God and has our concept of God changed over the years. When I was a child God was like my grandfather – only more so. My grandfather was sometimes stern. He had a long beard and blue eyes that seemed to look right through one to the inner self of me – but he was kind, he loved all of us. He was understanding with a delightful sense of humor.
“That image seems to have filled my needs then and still does today, but I can understand how Julian, in his concept of God, would add more feminine qualities such as my mother passed on to me and which we find expressed often by Jesus.”

I thank God for the wonderful childhood experiences I had with this “maiden Grandmother”. Although it is sad that I never knew my mother’s mother, God blessed our family with the marriage of Buel and Lucille Horn. A few years ago, I put some of my childhood memories to paper and thought you might like to experience one child’s point of view of “the farm”.
My other grandparents had a farm outside of Rockville, Indiana, near the tiny town of Bellmore. What wonderful memories that place still holds for me. Every child should have access to a farm; the smell of hay, the dew on the grass in the morning, the hot sun on berry brambles, the grasshoppers in the corn and the cool dampness of the woods. Going into the chicken house to gather eggs, and the stink of the chicken coop. My mother’s father father was not a tall man, but he seemed big to me, and he had big hands. My grandmother Lucille seemed to be nervous around children; she was my mother’s stepmother; an “old maid” who had married my grandfather at age fifty-three after my mother’s mother died. Still, in retrospect, she did pretty well, with a ready made family. I appreciated her more as I got older. The farm house had thick walls that kept it cool in the summer and warm in the winter. The front porch had been enclosed, and my grandfather’s study and later on the dining room was out there. An enormous hydrangea bush with burnt copper flowers almost covered the door to the porch, making the entrance like that to a cave. A weeping willow tree stood out front, and the lawn sloped, making it wonderful to do somersaults down it. Cicada skeletons clung to the bark of the willow tree, and past the mown grass the lawn turned into a field of corn or a pasture, depending upon the need. It was hard to walk in this area since the grass grew in uneven clumps. Blackberry or raspberry bushes grew and there was a small stream meandering through the pasture. The lane leading up to the farmhouse was one-lane and when I was little, seemed endless. It passed the farmhouse, past the back field and then turned to the right when the woods started.
Once we went on a walk through the woods, looking for mushrooms. I saw a luna moth – green and translucent in the cool, damp darkness. There was a magic tree there, with a vine growing straight through the middle of the tree, and an old well, with a pump rusty and frozen with age. The barn was enormous, with hay stored in the hayloft. We would climb up with my grandfather and look for kittens. There were always kittens, scrawny and wild. The momma cat would catch rabbits and bring the carcass back for the kittens – and they would get blood-stained faces from their meal.
My grandfather raised hogs one year – enormous pink-snouted beasts that trampled in the mud and looked at me with their beady little eyes. I preferred the sheep, and used to gather the wool off of the barbed-wire fence. The farm house was full of books, and had my grandmother’s grand piano in the living room. The stairs to the upper floor had a landing with a wide window seat. We would sit there and read and listen while my grandmother taught piano and voice. She had an hour-glass shaped egg timer filled with fine sand that we would play with. I loved to watch the sand fall into a miniature mountain. Upstairs was a bath with both rainwater and well-water spigots. I forgot which was which, but I believe that the rainwater was not heated. When we washed our hair in rainwater it always came out soft as rain falling on the roof. I love to use soaps and powders that remind me of washing in rainwater.
The tub was footed, and the bathroom tiled in pink. There were three upstairs bedrooms – the largest one was papered with pink and green cabbage roses. On summer nights we would open the windows and listen to the insects calling. It was in the days before air conditioning. I expect that that farmhouse is still not air-conditioned – it’s walls were almost a foot thick so it was very cool at least downstairs in the summer. We would lie on the beds, the windows opened to the night, and sweat! My grandfather had a huge garden, and an old maple tree with a swing tied to its lower branch. The lawn did not have grass, it had some sort of broad-leaf which had little pockets of shade underneath. It was wonderful to walk on barefoot, so cool and wet underfoot. My grandfather had an old collie dog named Ginger, in addition to the barnyard cats. Ginger liked to chase the chickens. We would go into the chicken yard, walking rather carefully to avoid the chicken poop and crawl into the chicken coop and look for eggs. Several times, an old rooster “gave his all” and became our lunch. My grandpa would catch one, and cut off its head with an axe on an old stump back by the ancient outhouse. He would get most of the feathers off, and then take it into the house for my grandmother to finish plucking. He never would let me witness the chopping although Bill got to. I will not pluck a chicken to this day!































